"you've done so well considering the circumstances"

this is going to be a bit of rant, so my apologies ahead of time.
but recently I had one of the most frustrating encounters I've ever had this weekend.

While I was home, a women came up to talk to me.
we were catching up and I was telling her about graduation/north carolina/etc
..... and she responds with "you've done so well considering the circumstances!"

um ouch.

this phrase is a big pet peeve of mine, and I've heard a lot of times after explaining my dad and brother's accidents. to me, it's just belittling. as if I should not have been able to accomplish any of these things, or that it's such a surprise to everyone that I have been able too.

this women also took it even farther and said, "It must have been rough dating someone with the same addiction problems as your dad. Let's hope you can avoid those issues."

I literally had no words for her at this point.
too.far.

she also has impeccably timing. not only am I already freaking out about moving in a month, I was also missing my brother like crazy, feeling self-conscious about all the decisions I've made recently, and managed to run into my ex.

and my dad's addiction issues literally scare the living sh*t out of me, so good one lady.

all in all, it was kind of a rough weekend. I was stressed, my family was stressed, and I took it out on my family. not my proudest moments.

but on the bright side, when I was unpacking from this weekend I found this sweet little surprise envelope from my momma filled with sayings and prayers.

also, I'm sure this lady didn't intend to come off as rude.

she's the best.